Sons of the Father:
Healing the Father-Wound in Men

20th Anniversary revised and updated edition
Now in ebook, paperback, and CD reading by the author

A little boy cries from his father’s wound;
a real man cries for his father’s wound

Did your dad talk to you helpfully about girls and sex? At a recent teaching of mine to 50 Christian men, none said Yes. If you’re a father, did your dad ever take you aside to give you support, encouragement, or helpful advice with your kids? Of 350 Christian fathers at another event, only 5 said Yes.

Have you ever said to another man, "I need you"?

Most of us men today are unequipped for manhood. The father of Lies capitalizes on our shame and blackmails us into denial, isolation, and host of bogus cover-ups from money and guns to alcohol, casual sex, and performance religion.

A man meets his true Father God not by striving after righteousness, but rather, by confessing his brokenness

The true Father of us all has come in Jesus to draw us back to Himself and to the man He created you to be. Here’s the map to get you there.

"We wanted men to get sensitive," she said, "but we didn’t want them to get passive. What happened?"

Sons of the Father blazes the trail not only to the heart of our wound as men, but to the heart of the Healer. If you're ready to face your need, trust your true Father's heart for you, and pursue His call to manhood, this is the book for you.

"Jesus, show me my dad the way you see him."

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Not long ago,

I polled a conference of 150 men with this question, "When you were growing up, did your father talk to you helpfully about girls and sexuality?" Only 2 men raised their hands.

At another conference of 350 fathers, I asked, "When you became a dad for the first time, did your own father come alongside you with some help, encouragement, support, or advice - maybe call you up, come visit you, or write you a letter?" Only five hands.

If you’re wondering why men’s sexuality is out of control and why men feel inadequate as fathers, here’s where we start. Not to judge or curse your father, but to face your wound as every generation must, including your son’s. Then, to go to Jesus for healing and see Dad as God sees him, to forgive and honor him. Then, at last, to go to Father God to get what no human father can give, and become the man you’re called to be.

Welcome to the journey of manhood
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John Eldredge

“A number of years ago, at a point in my own journey when I felt more lost than ever, I heard a talk given by Gordon Dalbey, who had just written Healing the Masculine Soul. He raised the idea that despite a man’s past and the failures of his own father to initiate him, God could take him on that journey to provide what was missing. A hope arose within me.” (John Eldredge, Wild at Heart, p. 102.)

Bill Gaither

“We have had Gordon at our annual Praise Gathering in Indianapolis several times, and he is always on target. He’s very sound intellectually and doctrinally. I would recommend him highly.” (Bill Gaither, songwriter/singer/producer)