In my ministry, I want men to experience the healing and freedom when you get real with yourself, with God, and with other men. That’s how we discover not only Whose we are, but the manhood we’re created for and the power to walk it out.
- Gordon Dalbey
NEW REVISED UPDATED PAPERBACK
Fight like a Man 2013
A New Manhood for a New Warfare
9/11 parted an unholy curtain to reveal the enemy of God and humanity as rooted in shame-based religion. That revelation has dramatically shifted the focus of warfare from military battles to the hearts of men.
IíM RUNNING SCARED across an open field--in this nightmare that hounded me so often as a young man--chased by a platoon of brown-uniformed soldiers armed with rifles and bayonets. Desperately, I race toward an old, two-story house in the middle of the field. Reaching it, I burst into the front door and slam it behind me, panting.
Boots thump on the doorstep. Turning quickly, I tear up the stairs, dart into a room and close the door. The front door bangs open downstairs. The boots tromp around below and then finally, up the stairs in staccato urgency toward my room. Sweating, I rush into a closet and snatch the door shut behind me.
The boots stomp into my room seconds later, shuffle uncertain, and then move louder, toward the closet.
Trembling in the stuffy darkness, I grasp after breath. Pounding furiously, my heartbeat merges with the boots and BAM! A fist explodes on the closet door and I jolt awake in terror.
Apart from either violence or lust, Fight like a Man restores both courage and passion to manhood. Hereís a masculinity you can trustóand the Father who makes it happen.
Born in August, 1944, I was called a "Victory Baby," because by my birthday, D-Day on June 6th of that year had secured the decisive initiative against the enemy. Today, I believe God is mounting an offensive, as a spiritual D-Day, to reclaim his territory in menís hearts.
Even as the flak is thickest when you're over the target, I also believe that 9/11 was the enemy's reaction to God's initiative.
This warrior's view at last reveals my nightmare as the Father's dream for me, that in fact, those soldiers were pursuing not to kill me, but to recruit me. In fact, it's a parable for men today as, unfathered, unequipped, and ashamed, we can't recognize our true Father God and run from His call.
Fight like a Man completes my menís trilogy by focusing on the crippling byproduct of fatherlessness in men today, namely, shameótoo often fostered by religion, always overcome by Jesus.
Widely regarded as the best of my three men's books, Fight like a Man is now even more timely today with its updated post-9/11 perspective in this new and revised edition.
- Godís victory begins with our surrender.
- Religion tells men what to do; Jesus shows us who does it.
- Unlike religion, in Jesus blessing comes before obedience.
- We're not trapped in shame because we keep falling; we keep falling because we're trapped in shame.
- A man who wonít face his own pain can't see it in his child.
- You can't ride the warhorse into the New Jerusalem until you've ridden the jackass into the Old Jerusalem.
Fight like a Man 2013
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Conferences & Retreats
Not long ago,
I polled a conference of 150 men with this question, "When
you were growing up, did your father talk to you helpfully
about girls and sexuality?" Only 2 men raised their hands.
At another conference of 350 fathers, I asked, "When you
became a dad for the first time, did your own father come
alongside you with some help, encouragement, support, or advice - maybe
call you up, come visit you, or write you a letter?" Only
If you’re wondering why men’s sexuality is out of control
and why men feel inadequate as fathers, here’s where we start.
Not to judge or curse your father, but to face your wound
as every generation must, including your son’s. Then, to go
to Jesus for healing and see Dad as God sees him, to forgive
and honor him. Then, at last, to go to Father God to get what
no human father can give, and become the man you’re called
See Gordonís ďSons of the FatherĒ weekend menís conference/retreat
“A number of years ago, at a point in my own journey when I felt more lost than ever, I heard a talk given by Gordon Dalbey, who had just written Healing the Masculine Soul. He raised the idea that despite a man’s past and the failures of his own father to initiate him, God could take him on that journey to provide what was missing. A hope arose within me.” (John Eldredge, Wild at Heart, p. 102.)
“We have had Gordon at our annual Praise Gathering in Indianapolis several times, and he is always on target. He’s very sound intellectually and doctrinally. I would recommend him highly.” (Bill Gaither, songwriter/singer/producer)
Rev. Alan Wright
"In a word, the weekend has changed our congregation. I don't think those men, their families, or our church will ever be the same. Your leadership was sensitive to the Spirit, humble but persuasive, dynamic but Christ-Centered." (Rev. Alan Wright, author, pastor Reynolda Presbyterian Church, Winston-Salem, NC)
"Gordon Dalbey's teaching on manhood has touched me deeper than any other. Listening to Gordon teaching at a men's retreat was like constant 'explosions of revelation'--'I'm not alone in that struggle!'...'There's really hope for change!'...'so that's why God designed things that way!' " (Brian Doerksen, Canadian songwriter/producer)